Mothers

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Are mothers always a blessing? Is there a truth behind this overtly used quote circulated on social media, “God could not be everywhere, and therefore he made mothers”?

Maybe, we need to see them from the fresh perspective of mothers being human. Let’s take them a notch down from that pedestal of an ‘all-sacrificing’ woman, and view her objectively. She is foremost, a human being and then a woman and thereafter, if she chooses to be, she becomes a mother. Yes, while being human or a woman is not a choice for her, being mother definitely is something she chooses to be. Mothers are necessity for procreating and advancing the human race. However, given the current global population, maybe it would be better to put a stop to having more children, and maybe, it would be a good idea to care for the unfortunate ones. Or maybe it’s just me. The IVF industry is a living proof after all!

Anyway, original question – are mothers always a blessing? Let’s break some myths:

-         Mothers are human being foremost. They have failings and sometimes serious ones.

-         They are women too and have emotional reactions to lots of things, along with being given added responsibilities.

-         They can be selfish, very selfish.

-         They have favorites and do take sides.

-         They can get depressed and are not super moms.

-         They do want to abandon their kids and often do that.

However, some generic statements do hold true. Such as, there aren’t alternatives to mothers, any alternative or step ones are usually not pleasant.

Realised, this has become quite a grim post for such a topic. Then again, sometimes, you do need to say things as is, without the sugar coating to hide the bitterness within.

Comments

  1. Afshan ShaikApril 16, 2022 at 12:14 AM

    You know what the sugar coated things are not good to read. What you told is so true. A mother is a human being first not a superhuman. I have been saying this all the time!

    Dropping by from a to z http://afshan-shaik.blogspot.com/

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  2. Alice GerardApril 16, 2022 at 9:21 AM

    I miss my mom. She was very human and yet seemed like a super human.

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  3. Jayashree SrivatsanApril 18, 2022 at 4:52 AM

    Its not physical mothers but sort of the unconditional love a mother tends to have that is glorified i suppose. Thats sort of perfect I guess though mothers themselves are not

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