Apology is just saying ‘I am sorry!’
Apologizing is not an art. And, come to think of it, it is
not even a science. It is just an expression of admitting to that stupidly dumb
thing you had done, which could have been otherwise avoided. Then, why is it so
hard to apologize? There could be multiple reasons, but the prime one is you
know you have screwed up, you don’t want to face the ramifications, there could
be explosives at the other end, and you don’t want to basically face the music.
But that’s the escapist route. I think the best way to
apologize is to apologize the moment you know you have done something wrong. Don’t
linger it. Because not only you are prolonging someone’s pain, but you are also
pushing your luck too far!
Next comes the question, how? That’s simple too. Just tell
the person that you are sorry. There isn’t any need for prolonged explanations,
bouquets of flowers, boxes of chocolates or expensive gifts. A simple and
sincere ‘I am sorry’ is enough to let the other person know that you had
screwed up big time and you will not repeat, at least, that particular stupidly
dumb thing ever.
After all, to err is human, to forgive, well…
Apologies can be very difficult, but it's the best solution to keep relationships and encounters from getting out of hand. What I don't like is when someone expects me to apologize for something I either haven't done or something that I felt was the right thing to do.
ReplyDeleteArlee Bird
Tossing It Out
I agree with you Arlee. One should apologise if they are wrong and that too quickly. However, one should never be apologetic about something they have done right. Believe in your conviction but don't be too conceited! Thanks for stopping by and sharing your thought ☺
DeleteIts hard sometimes to swallow your pride and admit you were wrong, but it can also be really cleansing to just admit it!
ReplyDeleteDebbie
Very true Debbie...Saying sorry often brings a sense of peace within as well...Thanks for visiting...
DeleteHonestly I don't understand what the fuss is about with people. I mean, you don't think about it when you commit a mistake so why think so much when you've got to apologize, right?
ReplyDeleteAs for me, I have absolutely no trouble saying sorry. In fact I think I have the other kind of problem where I sometimes say sorry when it's not even my fault!
~ Saraallie
Sara Writes - The Crazy Life of a Silly Little Sister
Often it's not that simple, circumstances and our insecurities make us shrink away from facing certain situations. People who admit they are wrong, like you, are really brave. But, try not to apologize if it's not your fault :)
DeleteTrying my best to work on that :)
DeleteApologizing is the best thing to do when you are in the wrong. It's cathartic. Great post. Visiting from the A to Z Challenge. Cheers!
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Thanks so much :)
DeleteTrue, Apologising is not an art, it takes a lot of thinking to come up with a reason to convince yourselves that you have made a mistake. Launching SIM Organics Shortly
ReplyDelete*Menaka Bharathi*
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When you make a mistake you know, you always know, it's more about when you admit it to yourself. Once you do that, the next step is simple enough...Thanks for visiting...
DeleteYes. If I know that I have hurt someone, I do apologize quickly. Would be good if the person says frankly what hurt them, coz it's not clear at times, and if it is, can try not to go there again. nice post!
ReplyDeleteThanks Vinay...I agree, it always help to keep the channel of communication open and clear...
DeleteI have come across people who find it equally difficult to apologize and to forgive. I don't understand why it's like that for them.
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Chicky @ www.mysteriouskaddu.com
Chicky, in both the cases, it is our ego that comes in between. If we understand the sincerity of the person who is apologizing and the pain of someone we have hurt, things will get simple. Thanks for stopping by :)
DeleteApologising is an art. I know kids who can apologise and forgive instantly. As we grow up, ego comes into play. Then it becomes a question of 'loss of face' when in fact, it should just be as simple as 'Hey I'm sorry I acted like a jerk'. But no, that doesn't happen as often as we'd like.
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Absolutely Shailaja, ego is what stops us from apologizing or forgiving someone. Kids are amazing that ways, we, grown ups, should reverse learn something from them each day. All the best with your AtoZ challenge too.
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ReplyDeleteWhy does apologising become so much harder as we get older? Why does it seem imbued with so much more ego? I notice it in my kids especially. They're so much more reluctant to apologise now as teens than they were when they were smaller.
ReplyDeleteA is for... abortion/Parenting in the Wilderness
As a parent, I think there is a greater need to sensitize kids to be rooted and help them realize their egos. If this thought is reinforced in them, they will grow up to become better adults. I am sure you are doing a wonderful job my namesake :). Thanks for visiting...
DeleteSo true! Interesting that it's so hard for people to do it. I often wonder if it's because we are forced to apologize so often as children? Makes us buck up as adults and not want to as an inner rebellion.
ReplyDeleteWow Tammy, that's really an interesting thought. Yes, we do want to buck up from things we were made to do forcefully as kids. And, asking for forgiveness was really one of those things the adults made us do. It could be an inner defense mechanism...Thanks Tammy...
DeleteApologising is so simple and yet so hard to do. When we are wrong it is up to us to apologise. We can't force the other person to accept our apology and of course saying sorry doesn't meant that the other person stops hurting or stops being angry with us. As others have pointed out sometimes we do the right thing (by us) and someone gets hurt. We don't have to apologise for what we have done but we can aknowledge the other person's hurt and that can ease their pain. Mind you "I'm sorry you were hurt BUT..." doesn't cut it. We can leave it at I'm sorry what I did hurt you works. Visiting from A to Z challenge. http://ozzypipquilts.blogspot.com.au/
ReplyDeleteApologies need to be sincere, there cannot be any condition attached to it. "I am sorry, but..", doesn't work. One is either sorry or not. Thanks for visiting, and all the best with your AtoZ challenge...
DeleteWell said! Uttering the word 'Sorry' may seem simple, but it takes a great deal to swallow your pride and admit to your mistake. Looking forward to more posts.
ReplyDelete- Anjali
Day-dreamer, occasional writer, guitar hobbyist and dog lover.
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Thanks so much Anjali. Yeah, simple things in life are often the hardest to do, isn't it? Hope to complete the challenge, thanks for visiting :)
DeleteLook at the progress you make on this Girl! Let's rock it.
ReplyDeleteThanks dear for instigating me to do this...:)
DeleteI have never had a problem with saying I am sorry. I have even said it to my children (when they were little and as adults). I am certainly not perfect (but pretty darn close..hehehe)
ReplyDeleteCheryl
Plucking Of My Heartstrings
Haa haa Cheryl...that's really sweet of you. People who could say sorry easily are the best...thanks for visiting :)
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