Remembrance

Cheating What will you do if your partner cheats on you? Would you walk out of the relationship or forgive them and give it another shot?  To each their own. Sometimes, it is a spur-of-a-moment attraction and sometimes it's a carefully planned lie. How does one discern which is what and whether one is supposedly "better" than the other? At times, situations take precedence for your decision more than your self-respect and value. Somehow, instead of facing the eye-of-the-storm, if the approach is to run away from the impending storm, then you will forever try to outrun the storm without any success.  Isn't it then better to face the situation head-on. See the spade for the spade and do what is best for you. Often, things are not simple, but then again, sometimes, we make them too complicated.  Life is delicate and even a single blow of deception can shatter it to pieces. It's how we live, how we love, that's what will ever matter.  Despite being a sensitive top...

"I am glad that I had such past bad relationship experiences, they taught me what exactly a relationship should not be, and what I deserve instead." Someone shared this interesting insight today and it made so much sense.  As clichéd as it may sound, unless we know the darkness, it is tough to appreciate light. Toxic relationships are no exceptions as well. Problem is, you would not know that you are in a toxic relationship unless you come out of it!  However, when you do, it is another form of liberation all together.  Here are top 5 awesome feelings you immediately sense when toxic people leave. 1.  Liberated, finally:  Couldn't help using this analogy, because trust me, nothing is better than this, and most women would attest to it as well. The liberation that you feel when toxic people leave is like the freedom women feel at the end of the day when they can finally take-off their bras! Yes, that feeling. The fastening around your chest is ...

“I do not intend to pain you anymore," she said looking into his eyes. “I never thought that I will ever be the cause of your pain and if my behaviour makes you sulk more, makes you more cocooned and reclusive, I think it is better that I no longer be a part of your life. You no longer need to worry about me. Just go and live your life, like the way you always wanted to. This should not change anything,” she continued. “What about you?” he asked, concerned. “Don’t feel guilty for me. Life is too short to live in guilt. I have found my path. I know where it leads to. No, I won’t lie. It would pain me, immensely. But it’s ok, as long as you are happy, I am happy too. Just promise me that you would be happy,” she said with tears brimming in her eyes. She amassed the courage to continue, "You know, some relations are never meant to be and this is one such. Wish it could have been." That’s all she could say and left the restaurant knowing now there is no turning b...

We crib about being taken for granted but recently a friend said, "I would love to know that my wife takes me for granted, that's the most awesome feeling. It means that she trusts me and does not want to look beyond me." I tried to find logic in that answer, but somehow couldn't. Maybe, it is different for men and women. Frankly, I don't like being taken for granted. When someone takes you for granted, it basically boils down to you being an option or a choice, you no longer remains a priority. The other person may just keep giving excuses in their head, some being, "I don't need to give her any explanations or I don't need to tell her anything or I don't think she is going anywhere." They keep you at the back burner, because, guess what, they think it is okay to take you for granted! And that's where the problem arises. It is never okay to take anyone for granted, even if it means it is your wife or husband or even kids. Treat th...

But can you really? And how to? It's tough to get the answers for these questions. The attachments are too deep. You want to cling on to your comfort zone, even if it has been making you miserable. Or maybe, you don't want to let go of your expectations. You keep believing that things will one day become fine, they will fall as per your wishes. But, those wishes remain that, just wishes. And, that's what you need to realise, some wishes cannot be fulfilled, no matter what you do or how hard you work towards them. You finally you come to the finish point, the edge, from where you know that either you could be stuck there forever or just let it go and take a turn towards a new road. Granted that it would be an unknown one, there would be new challenges too, but that should be better than being trapped at one place endlessly. Question remains, how to? Once you realise that you have been holding on to something that is not worthwhile, the next step is to letting it go....

There had been so much hoopla about this movie, everyone going gaga about it. So, after almost two-months of avoiding it, I finally succumbed to the strong recommendations of two of my five inner-most circle people! To start with, yes, it was a nice movie. It had its elements. It had a great story to tell, so many emotions to portray, and a simple message to deliver - live your life. It did it well. And, that's where my problem lies. It remained an average movie, when it could have been great. With a star-cast like SRK and Alia, this movie could have been more layered than being didactic, mundane and almost irrelevant. It seemed as if Gauri Shinde lost her zeal to the cause somewhere, as if she felt guilty of portraying such a story, as if it was too simple for her to even bring it on to the screen. Thankfully, the brilliant characters glossed over this 'glitch'. And, that's what made the public love it. Wish it could have been great though. Interestingly, these ...