Hurt

So you try and do something good for someone, and it backfires, what do you do? You genuinely want to give an opportunity to a person and hope that the person benefits out of it, but circumstances dictate otherwise and you are left in a lurch. Of course, the person at the other end is hurt and disappointed, but what you are not ready for is their uncalled for reaction. And yet, after all the unpalatable things, you still don't think for yourself but feel bad for the other person. You don't feel bad for yourself, but genuinely feel bad for the hurt that the person is going through. You understand their pain and hurt, and somehow the pain that they are causing you doesn't matter. My question is should it matter? Is there something being called too kind or too compassionate? Can you actually expand yourself so much that you can also absorb someone else's hurt, no matter how ego-centric that was, in you overlooking your own? Should you actually do it? Is it even healthy? Need answers.