I healed
It's an oft repeated phrase - Time heals everything. Truth is, it doesn't. At best, it just puts a flimsy translucent layer of the passing year, in an attempt to seal it away. Given enough years, you may have a patch that looks so unappealing that you decide to leave it as is. All it will take is a strong urge to prick the ends and the wound is as good as new. What truly heals you is "You". No one or no words of anyone can heal that deep-seated pain that you feel. You really need to have the desire to heal, to stop the hurt, to have the courage to say, "that's enough, I am out of here." More than that, you need to somehow tell yourself that you are no longer looking for answers to your unanswered questions. That's how I healed. It took decades to realise the irrelevance of my questions, to say it doesn't matter, that I don't want to know why she did what she had to. It wasn't easy but it gave me so much peace. I was even able to forgive h...